I really can't wait to get myself another job!

[ancientgirl]

My boss came into my office and told me he didn't want to upset or stress me but, he was going to tell me something because he cared about me. "You have to do something about your health and ...weight." Without knowing squat about my family medical history he said what happened to my brother was hereditary. That he knows about the radiation being part of it, but it's mainly hereditary.

First of all, there are absolutely no heart issues in my family. What happened to my brother has nothing to do with his heart being bad, it was an issue with his arteries that were damaged because of RADIATION treatments he had when he was in his early 20's!

Then he tells me that he was talking to his nutritionist, who said to him there was no way anyone could get all the nutrients they need to be healthy and lose weight on a vegetarian diet. Apparently he's spoken to his nutritionist about what fat cow I am. He also said I needed to "get over" this guilt I have about eating animals, and eat at least chicken or turkey because man was meant to eat animals. And that he's known me a long time and I've only started being a vegetarian after I got the cats. (Well yes because I started being more aware of animals and their abuse and neglect and have actually investigated just how that steak gets on your plate!)

So now I"m supposed to drop all of my beliefs and feelings because he says so?

Through all of this, I just sat here, nodded and agreed that yes I know I need to lose weight, he's not revealing anything new to me. I sat here and listened and reaffirmed to myself how badly I need to find another job and get out of here.

I have already made my mind up about changing my eating habits, and becoming more active. I don't need him or his nutritionist to tell me how to do it. Especially since I know for a fact there are tons of very successful athletes who ARE vegetarians!

I know I don't look great, I know it. Part of it is my weight and part of it is how I dress. I just haven't made an effort to buy clothes that look good on me. But I know I need to because when I find a new job, I'll need a professional wardrobe! Right now, I think I'm about a size 14, around there.

The only thing keeping me going right now is finding another job and finally being able to give my notice.

[14+kitties]

And your weight is his business why? Tell him to worry about his gf's weight and leave yours alone.

[ancientgirl]

Originally Posted by 14+kitties

And your weight is his business why? Tell him to worry about his gf's weight and leave yours alone.

Oh, he's always talking about how great she looks and how much she works out. The man is obsessed about his and her weight.

I seriously wish I could have told him to stick his opinion up his rear. These days I just sit here and don't say anything. I want out of here and I know if I start voicing my displeasure it will be worse, so I stay quiet and pray I find something.

[14+kitties]

Originally Posted by ancientgirl

Oh, he's always talking about how great she looks and how much she works out. The man is obsessed about his and her weight.

I seriously wish I could have told him to stick his opinion up his rear. These days I just sit here and don't say anything. I want out of here and I know if I start voicing my displeasure it will be worse, so I stay quiet and pray I find something.

Don't let him get to you. You will lose weight in your own time.

[Love4himies]

Oh poor you 14+ is right, it is none of his business!

[ancientgirl]

Originally Posted by 14+kitties

Don't let him get to you. You will lose weight in your own time.

And in my own way. I don't know where he suddenly became an expert on vegetarian lifestyle but to tell me I need to let go of this guilt for eating animals is insulting.

[ancientgirl]

Originally Posted by Love4himies

Oh poor you 14+ is right, it is none of his business!

I swear, it took everything I had to keep from telling him to go you know what himself.

[BenMax]

Are you kidding me AncientGirl.
H*ll Girl - you take that opportunity to tell him to mind his own Ps & Qs. DO NOT BE A DOOR MAT.
It is none of his business as to what you eat, why, your weight. The only thing that someone (in my opinion) can comment on is your clothing (if in appropriate or sloppy) and your behaviour. Other than that...SEND HIM MY WAY.

[ancientgirl]

Originally Posted by BenMax

Are you kidding me AncientGirl.
H*ll Girl - you take that opportunity to tell him to mind his own Ps & Qs. DO NOT BE A DOOR MAT.
It is none of his business as to what you eat, why, your weight. The only thing that someone (in my opinion) can comment on is your clothing (if in appropriate or sloppy) and your behaviour. Other than that...SEND HIM MY WAY.

I wanted to tell him all those things so badly, but I'm biding my time. I'm already miserable here, and making him angry at me will make things here even more miserable for me. Until I get another job, I've got to just sit here, smile and pretend to care about what he says.

[Jim Hall]

there was no way anyone could get all the nutrients they need to be healthy and lose weight on a vegetarian diet. lol he ever hear of hindus ?

[Shaykeija]

He mentioned your weight? I would be pulling out a ruler and size him up and leave papers for penile implants on his desk...What a a$$hole

[aslan]

I'd be telling him if he put as much thought into running his business as he does you're personal life he might actually be making more money.

[BenMax]

Originally Posted by ancientgirl

I wanted to tell him all those things so badly, but I'm biding my time. I'm already miserable here, and making him angry at me will make things here even more miserable for me. Until I get another job, I've got to just sit here, smile and pretend to care about what he says.

I hear you.

[quincymycat]

Originally Posted by Shaykeija

He mentioned your weight? I would be pulling out a ruler and size him up and leave papers for penile implants on his desk...What a a$$hole

No more inappropriate than what he just did to you!

What a jerk!

[ancientgirl]

I've known this man for about 15 years. In that time he's changed so much. I hate the person he is now, I really really hate him. I need to move on desperately.

[hazelrunpack]

What kind of company is this, AG? Is it a local affiliate of a larger company? If so, you may be able to file a grievance?

[ancientgirl]

Originally Posted by hazelrunpack

What kind of company is this, AG? Is it a local affiliate of a larger company? If so, you may be able to file a grievance?

Hazel, it's just my boss and I there and it's his company.

[luckypenny]

AG, I really sympathize with you. I can't help thinking that you really should let him know how you feel . If you've been there nearly 15 years, and have obviously been very bored and unhappy for a long time now, it can't possibly be healthy for you to be so angry about it. I know it helps to vent but, I think a part of the solution (while you look for something else) may be to speak directly to him to see if you can't resolve some of your issues. Have you ever spoken to him about your complaints? Are you afraid to?

[kathryn]

I would have punched him in the face. I get the "you need to eat meat" talk from people I work with all the time, but they are just poking fun and I really don't care because I can poke fun back at them and it's alright.

If you want, I can punch him in the face for you. I'm practically still a minor, I probably won't get charged with anything

[ancientgirl]

Originally Posted by luckypenny

AG, I really sympathize with you. I can't help thinking that you really should let him know how you feel . If you've been there nearly 15 years, and have obviously been very bored and unhappy for a long time now, it can't possibly be healthy for you to be so angry about it. I know it helps to vent but, I think a part of the solution (while you look for something else) may be to speak directly to him to see if you can't resolve some of your issues. Have you ever spoken to him about your complaints? Are you afraid to?

LP, I've tried talking to him in the past about things and it just winds up bothering him and he turns into some little kid about it. At this point, my best option is to just deal with it until I can get out of here. I've been with him too long and the concept of me not being happy is lost on him, since he already think I have the best job in the world and he's the best boss in the world. He's constantly telling me what a good boss he is, that he doesn't put a lot of pressure on me, I don't have to worry about coming in late if I had to, that I can take time off whenever I need it, that I get paid really well. So really according to him I'm the luckiest person in the world to have him as a boss and be working here. He's a selfish person and only cares about his needs, something very apparent since before he left his wife he was constantly complaining to me about her and how SHE was never giving him what HE needed. So I'd be talking to a wall.

Kathryn, if you're game, I'll pay the plane fair.

[ancientgirl]

I came back from lunch with my ex-SIL, and in the elevator some lady asked me if I was the person she met at the Weight Watchers meeting here in our building!

Okay okay I get it, I need to lose weight! Sheesh!

[14+kitties]

Hang in there AG.

[quincymycat]

Just keep looking AG. Here's to hoping things look up for you very soon

In the meantime......there are some people who would be thrilled to be a size 14!!!!!

[ancientgirl]

I had to just laugh at the whole thing. I mean, why can't this happen to me with lottery numbers? Like I see them and play them and win! Sheesh.

I know I've got to lose weight, but lay off universe!

[chico2]

AG,You know yourself,that no employer has a right to say what yours did,unless you are 500lb's and cannot sit behind a desk.

There is a job out there for you I am sure and when you one day give your notice,this jerk will find out how important and loyal you have been to him,he might even offer a huge raise to get you to stay.

Employers today,unfortunately have the power,knowing full well jobs are hard to get,but seeing since it's only you and him,he'll be in trouble if you quit and it will look good on him.

[ancientgirl]

Chico, he's incredibly lucky right now all I want is to just not cause any problems and wait for something to come my way.

The day I am gone, he will realize how good he had it with me.