Go Back   Pet forum for dogs cats and humans - Pets.ca > Discussion Groups - mainly cats and dogs > Dog training - dog behavior

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old February 25th, 2010, 01:41 AM
mozzandherb mozzandherb is offline
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Gatineau
Posts: 7
Question...little embaressed...first post

Hi, I am new here and I am a new dog owner. He is a four year old male Boston Terrier and he is a really good dog. We have only had him for a couple of days, but just today we came upon a little problem. My wife and I wanted to go into the bedroom (if you know what I mean), so we decided to close the door and leave Mr Frodo (the dog) out of the room. So afterward (a few minutes...lol) we found that Mr Frodo had urinated on one of the chairs in our living room.
I was just wondering, is it okay to leave the dog in the same room while your doing the mattress dance? Or should they always stay out of the room? So this is an odd first post and I appreciate any help. Thanks
Reply With Quote
  #2  
Old February 25th, 2010, 02:44 AM
Shaykeija's Avatar
Shaykeija Shaykeija is offline
Senior Contributor
 
Join Date: Aug 2004
Posts: 2,585
OMG LOL...slap an tickle time at our house is interesting. One of my four dogs are like in our face going "whatcha doing Dad?" If you handle the little voyeur who cares.. I am still laughing....
__________________
The more I get to know people, the more I love my dog...

There ain't no cure for stupid ...... but we should make sure we laugh and point it out to everyone else
Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old February 25th, 2010, 05:45 AM
aslan aslan is offline
-
Asteroids Champion, Starship Legend Champion, Rabbit Hunter Champion, Magic Ball Champion, Candy Tetris Champion, Bounce Back Champion, Breakout Champion
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: toronto, on
Posts: 15,600
our two are usually in the room, mind you they were quickly trained not to be on the bed. Pupper was probably more upset with being locked away from you than wanting to watch.
Reply With Quote
  #4  
Old February 25th, 2010, 09:16 AM
ancientgirl's Avatar
ancientgirl ancientgirl is offline
Senior Contributor
 
Join Date: May 2007
Location: Miami, FL
Posts: 15,069
You quickly learn that once you have pets, you pretty much have little or no privacy. I haven't had a moment alone for about 3 years, but I absolutely don't mind.
__________________
There are only two rules at my house: House rule #1. Cats rule. House rule #2. See rule #1.

http://nuriaandthegang.shutterfly.com/
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old February 25th, 2010, 11:23 AM
mozzandherb mozzandherb is offline
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Gatineau
Posts: 7
It appears from talking with the previous owner that he is a jealous and possessive dog...this must have some factor in his behavior, but I'm still confused as to what to do...
Reply With Quote
  #6  
Old February 25th, 2010, 11:27 AM
aslan aslan is offline
-
Asteroids Champion, Starship Legend Champion, Rabbit Hunter Champion, Magic Ball Champion, Candy Tetris Champion, Bounce Back Champion, Breakout Champion
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: toronto, on
Posts: 15,600
not quite sure which issue you're asking for help with,,the pupper in the bedroom durring sex or the jealousy and possesive behavior...

If you don't want him in the room and are concerned about him marking while you're occupied elsewhere. you could crate him, or give him a nummy treat that will last awhile.

the jealous and possessivness, you need to practice NILF, he needs to learn that anything he has comes from you.
Reply With Quote
  #7  
Old February 25th, 2010, 11:44 AM
mozzandherb mozzandherb is offline
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Gatineau
Posts: 7
Quote:
Originally Posted by aslan View Post
not quite sure which issue you're asking for help with,,the pupper in the bedroom durring sex or the jealousy and possesive behavior...

If you don't want him in the room and are concerned about him marking while you're occupied elsewhere. you could crate him, or give him a nummy treat that will last awhile.

the jealous and possessivness, you need to practice NILF, he needs to learn that anything he has comes from you.
yeah, sort of had a double barreled there...I guess I'm asking help for both issues. And what is NILF? I'm guessing there's a link to NILF somewhere on here. Thanks
Reply With Quote
  #8  
Old February 25th, 2010, 11:57 AM
mummummum's Avatar
mummummum mummummum is offline
-
 
Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: The Hammer
Posts: 8,534
ALL joking aside...if he is urinating now to show his displeasure, he will only escalate his behaviour if you don't nip it in the bud asap. As well, he may start to react when you and your partner-in-crime attempt ANY affection in front of him.

Nothing In Life Is Free = NILF. There are a ton of threads around.
Reply With Quote
  #9  
Old February 25th, 2010, 12:12 PM
Dog Dancer's Avatar
Dog Dancer Dog Dancer is offline
Senior Contributor
 
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Vancouver, BC
Posts: 6,667
I agree with the others. NILF is essential, and probably some basic obedience training just to learn respect for you as new owners. Give him a bed (or crate) on the floor of your room and let him (make him) sleep there unless you specifically give him permission to get on the bed. My two each have a bed on the floor in the bedroom, they go there on their own at their bedtimes. One sleeps right through our adventures, and the other one gets up and moves out into the hallway of her own accord until we are done. You have to set the boundaries for your new boy, and you need to do it quickly. If you are not familiar with crate training, there are lots of threads on here with that also. It will take time though if he is not used to it. You can try freezing a kong with peanutbutter and treats inside it and give him this on his bed when you're "busy" to occupy him.
Reply With Quote
  #10  
Old February 25th, 2010, 12:25 PM
BenMax BenMax is offline
Senior Contributor
 
Join Date: May 2008
Posts: 10,187
Very good question actually. Nothing to be embarrassed about.

I agree with the others that boundries are important. Since he is new to your house hold, it is important to set ALL boundries now and not just this one.

Everyone is giving great advice. On a personal note (though I have not been 'busy' for sometime), I never let my animals hang out while the deed was being done...just alittle 'creepy' for me.
Reply With Quote
  #11  
Old February 25th, 2010, 05:48 PM
mozzandherb mozzandherb is offline
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Gatineau
Posts: 7
thanks everyone, I will take a look at crate training. any good threads off hand that anyone has handy? Because it is new to me..,thanks
Reply With Quote
  #12  
Old February 25th, 2010, 06:41 PM
luckypenny's Avatar
luckypenny luckypenny is offline
Doggie Wench
 
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: St. Philippe-de-Laprairie, Qc
Posts: 11,812
On crate training: http://www.sfspca.org/sites/default/files/crating_0.pdf
__________________
"Education is a progressive discovery of our own ignorance." -Will Durant
Reply With Quote
  #13  
Old February 25th, 2010, 06:57 PM
mozzandherb mozzandherb is offline
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Gatineau
Posts: 7
Quote:
Originally Posted by luckypenny View Post
OK thanks...well our dog is crate trained from the previous owners, so I guess the obvious answer to my original question would be to put him into his crate during those intimate times?? I never was a big fan of a crate, but I he is used to it and I am starting to see that it can be very useful. At first, it seems kind of cruel (at least to me), but now I can definetely see a good use for it.
Reply With Quote
  #14  
Old February 25th, 2010, 07:52 PM
Marcha's Avatar
Marcha Marcha is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Greater Victoria, BC, Canada
Posts: 510
You know, I'd never heard of crating before we moved to North America (from Europe). I thought it was cruel too, but when we were researching dogs, we found some good info (including the link that LP just gave) about it and were determined to have our dog used to crates.

When she was about 4 months old, we went camping, and took her with us. We *thankfully* had the crate with us too. She was barking at every odd and unfamiliar sound, until we put her in the crate. It is our belief that she suddenly felt that she only had to protect that tiny little space of the crate, rather than our entire campsite. The moment she was in the crate, she slept through the night.

She is now no longer crated at night, but we still crate her at least once a day, just because. It's mostly for an hour or two at most, but it's time for her to relax and time for me to get on with things. I pick up the kids, I do some errands, and she doesn't come out the moment we come home either. She comes out when WE say she comes out. So we come and go while she's in the crate.

Plus we know that she's comfortable with the crate when she needs to be crated. That's a big bonus for us too. And she's not reluctant to go in either. We tell her to go in, she goes in, she waits for us to close the door.

We're actually quite happy to have the crate. She is now 9 months old, and we'll slowly train her to be on her own in the kitchen while we aren't in the house, and from thereon to the rest of the house... but for now, we're happy to know she's safely in the crate, unable to get into trouble, and so forth, and so forth.

(oh, and yes, she does get crated when it's playtime for dh and me - otherwise she's constantly wanting to join in on the fun. Umm - no.)
Reply With Quote
  #15  
Old February 25th, 2010, 09:23 PM
we3beagles's Avatar
we3beagles we3beagles is offline
Beagle Rescue / CDT
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: Calgary, Alberta
Posts: 280
If dogs are properly crate trained they will love to be in their crate and retreat there in times of chaos and termoil in the house. As for the urinating when you are otherwise occupied, I have a dog that does that. Asking a behaviorist she said that it was a moderate form of seperation anxiety. I think your better off putting him in the crate with a kong for his anxiety or even letting him be in the room. Mine just all go their pillows and lay down.

Imagine how horrible it must sound to a puppy when you lock the door and make a ruckus lol.
Reply With Quote
  #16  
Old February 25th, 2010, 09:27 PM
mozzandherb mozzandherb is offline
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Gatineau
Posts: 7
Quote:
Originally Posted by we3beagles View Post
If dogs are properly crate trained they will love to be in their crate and retreat there in times of chaos and termoil in the house. As for the urinating when you are otherwise occupied, I have a dog that does that. Asking a behaviorist she said that it was a moderate form of seperation anxiety. I think your better off putting him in the crate with a kong for his anxiety or even letting him be in the room. Mine just all go their pillows and lay down.

Imagine how horrible it must sound to a puppy when you lock the door and make a ruckus lol.
Great, thanks for your info! Mr Frodo has absolutely no problems going into the crate, we tell him to and he goes in on his own free will. I am now starting to think that's it's not cruel if it's used for the right reasons. He does sleep with us on the bed at night and there are no problems.
But he has urinated twice and i dont know if it's a jealousy thing or if it's because of the new surrounding and he's marking it
Reply With Quote
  #17  
Old February 27th, 2010, 06:04 AM
ownedbycats's Avatar
ownedbycats ownedbycats is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Ontario
Posts: 854
Another advantage of the crate (aside from the incentive dogs have to avoid soiling it if possible) is that if there is an accident crates are MUCH easier to clean than your favorite ...insert item here...
__________________
Dr. Seuss~DLH (brother's cat)~June 2007-
Misty~DSH (my cat & Mooby's mom)-?- Sept. 15, 2014
MooBoots(Mooby) ~ DMH(Mom's cat)~July 21, 2008-
Sunshine~ Golden retriever X white german sheperd (Dad's dog)~October 24, 2008-
Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off


Forum Terms of Use

  • All Bulletin Board Posts are for personal/non-commercial use only.
  • Self-promotion and/or promotion in general is prohibited.
  • Debate is healthy but profane and deliberately rude posts will be deleted.
  • Posters not following the rules will be banned at the Admins' discretion.
  • Read the Full Forum Rules

Forum Details

  • Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.8
    Copyright ©2000 - 2024, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
    vBulletin Optimisation by vB Optimise (Reduced on this page: MySQL 0%).
  • All times are GMT -5. The time now is 11:17 AM.